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ASK SLUTEVER for IDLM: 5th Edition

It might be the smart thing to take her advice though...What follows is another edition of Ask Slutever for IDLM, Karley talks unwanted hairs and coveted body parts. Have you been secretly hoarding questions but too shy to ask? Seize the day! Email her at karleyslutever@gmail.com. Be sure to visit Slutever for daily doses of stylish bodacious-ness!

Dear Slutever,
I’m 15 and a virgin. I’ve hooked up with a few guys, and I want to go further, but there are some things I’m nervous about. Firstly, I have quite hairy boobs and I’m scared this it’s fucking weird and freaky and that guys will be grossed out! What do I do about them? Also, I’ve masturbated a bit before but never reached orgasm--is that normal?
Nervous Down Under

Slutever Says,
Lots of girls have hair on their boobs--that’s normal. Invest in some tweezers and pluck it out girl! Not an issue.

About jerking off: lots of girls have to practice masturbating, and sometimes it takes a while to learn how to make yourself cum. What happens when you masturbate now? Do you get bored and give up before you orgasm? Sometimes the process just takes a while--like twenty minutes or so--so you have to give yourself time. It sounds obvious, but the more turned on your are, the easier it is to cum. Try looking at something stimulating--porn, a photo you find sexy, etc. Personally, when I’m having a hard time cumming, something that helps is holding my breath. Decreasing the amount of oxygen to your brain makes you feel all giddy and lightheaded, and heightens your sensory pleasures. That’s why erotic aspyxiation is such a big thing--if it didn’t work, there wouldn’t be so many people killing themselves doing it, right? I’m not saying you need to tie a belt around your neck, but next time you’re rubbing your clit, try taking a deep breath and holding it for as long as you can, and see what happens. Also, some girls find it hard to cum using just their hands, so maybe you need some assistance. Make the shower head your best friend. If your shower head isn’t detachable and can’t reach your vagina, another great method is lying down in the bathtub and positioning yourself so that your clit is directly underneath the stream of water coming out of the faucet. The water falling on you feels, like, sooo good. You have to make sure to get the temperature and pressure exactly right though. After all, these are delicate matters.

Dear Slutever,
So I have been seeing this lovely boy for two months now, and he recently confessed that he has always wanted to get fucked with a strap-on. I’ve used toys with guys before, but have never done this. I’m thinking of buying him a strap-on as a surprise. But like, is it insulting to buy a small one? I feel like a big one will hurt. How do I make this the most pleasant experience possible? Is there a right way to go about all this?
Lynn, OR

Slutever Says,
To be honest, I don’t have that much experience with this, but I have had some first hand strap-on lessons from a very skilled Dominatrix, so I will share what I know with you.

So... have you guys tried any anal play before? If you haven't done any basic training then even a small dildo might hurt him. I would suggest buying a dildo that’s very soft, thin (smallest girth possible), and long, so you can adjust the length by putting your hand around the base. You don’t need to give him the whole length, but if you buy a "beginners" type dildo, which is soft, thin and short, it may slip out very easily, making the experience more annoying than fun. Also, make sure you buy a harness that’s adjustable around the waist and legs, this way it will fit you properly, and you will be both comfortable and in control.

Get him ready with your fingers and some lube first. Wear plastic gloves if you want. That may sound surgical and weird, but it also might add to the element of roll play. As for position, doggie style is good for controlling penetration, and it’s also easier for him to lean forward if it starts to hurt. Other than that, the only advice I really have is to take it easy. Since us girls don’t normally hump stuff, our bodies aren’t used to all that aggressive thrusting. The first time I fucked someone with a strap-on was in college. I fucked some drunk girl who kept screaming, “Fuck me with your huge cock!” even though the dildo was really tiny (and hot pink). I threw my back out doing it and could barely walk for four days. Embarrassing?

And one more thing. On the subject of strap-ons, my scary lesbian Dominatrix friend once told me this: “Always remember, ouch is not a safeword and lube is over-rated.” Do with that what you will.

Above images via Happy 2 b Sad

INTERNET FRIENDS (SPECIAL EDITION): ASK SLUTEVER for IDLM PART #4

If you're not all hot and bothered from her new film for Purple Television, then take some time to get emotional with Slutever during our ASK SLUTEVER for IDLM series. Send us the most personal of questions and receive guidance. Email her at Karleyslutever@gmail.com. Today Karley addresses betrayal, mom's fudge, and what it REALLY takes to be good in bed.

Dear Slutever,
I'm horribly depressed. I recently found out my boyfriend is cheating on me, the shock still hasn't worn off and I’ve yet to confront him. You're probably reading this thinking I'm a sooky idiot female, which I guess I am, to be honest. We have amazing sex--sex that sends me absolutely insane. I'm beginning to wonder whether I haven't confronted him because I don't want to give up the sex. His mum also makes an insane chocolate fudge cake, so that could also be another reason. Do I confront him, ignore it, let it spill out in a drunken psycho yelling fit, or simply break it off?
Depressed in Australia

Slutever Says:
First of all, you’re not an idiot. Most people in this world have either been cheated on or been the cheater, and that will probably never change because the human race is inherently slutty. Because most of us have the ability to separate sex and love, it means that even if you truly love someone it’s not out of the question that you will make the conscious decision to fuck someone else behind their back at one point or another. That doesn’t necessarily make you a bad person, it just makes you human (i.e. epically flawed).


The thing is, your boyfriend obviously hurt you, which is a problem. If you never agreed to be in an open relationship then sleeping with someone else is grounds for a break up. There are things to think about: did he sleep with someone just one time? Has he slept with lots of other people? Has he been sleeping with a specific person repeatedly? Option three is probably the most serious, because that’s when you enter “emotional cheating” territory, which is the worst kind.What’s important to remember is that monogamy is hard. If two people have a great relationship then I don’t think it should be a deal breaker if someone gets drunk and fucks somebody one night. If your boyfriend needed to fuck another girl it probably has way more to do with his own ego or his sex-crazed man brain than it does with how he feels about you.


The right thing to do is just to talk to him about it. But don’t go in screaming and don’t be drunk when you do it. You have every right to be mad, but screaming won’t solve anything and you need to have a rational conversation. This is probably not the most responsible thing to tell you, but for the sake of honesty I’ll share. A few years ago I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me. I wanted to kill him, but instead I just went out and fucked another guy. Knowing I had fooled around too gave me a sense of mental power, and I felt more confident and less manic when I finally confronted him and recited the pre-planned line "I know you fucked that anorexic skank from LA you illiterate prick." So uh... yeah, I’m not suggesting you should follow my lead on that one. But the point (I think) I’m trying to make is: don’t play the victim. Do what you want, because there are no rules. If you want to forgive him, then forgive him. It’s not embarrassing. If you want to get threesomed by two farmers to get back at him, then I think that’s fair enough. However if you can’t get over his infidelity and you think it will haunt your relationship forever, then you should break it off. There are lots of guys out there who are good in bed who will send you “absolutely insane” with their boners. It’s a mathematical certainty.

Dear Slutever,
I’m 24 and the longest relationship of my life was seven months. I’ve had sex but I don't have much experience with girls and I feel like I’m missing the good techniques it takes to be good in bed! Is sex that difficult? Do I have to do acrobatics in order to be good at sex or do I just have low self-confidence?
Nick, Athens

Slutever Says:
Please, for the love of god, no acrobatics. I’ll make it simple: as a hetero guy, if you want to be good in bed you have to be attentive to the girl and receptive to what turns her on. You know all the screaming orgasms girls have in porn? Yeah, those are fake. Pounding us repeatedly from behind for ten minutes isn’t going to make us cum. Also, we don’t like it when you try to shove it in while we’re still dry. Foreplay is important to us because it takes longer for girls to cum than is does for boys, so you have to rub our boobs and kiss our necks and spank us (maybe?) to allow us time to “get going” or whatever. Some girls can have G-spot orgasms (I hate you), but most of us need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Well, it’s not rocket science but giving a girl head is normally the most efficient way to turn her on, because you can rub your tongue directly onto the part that feels good. Also, please lick lightly. Jeez, it’s not a stamp.


Also, don’t be afraid to ask a girl what she likes. It shows us that you care and it also means we get to tell you exactly what to do without sounding all demanding. And also, “Tell me what feels good” is just a hot sentence, ya know? Sex is hard to fuck up, so don’t over-think it. Like I’ve said before, sex is meant to be clumsy and awkward. Embrace it.


Above images by Ilze Vanaga via GirlCorMagazine

HEATHER HUEY Couture Milliner

Designer Heather Huey has taken an old craft and revolutionized it. Under the umbrella of milliner Heather creates body braids, wearable sculptures, conceptual head pieces, and a truly new perspective on accessories. Her work has been so successful in an editorial setting because of its natural drama and ease, but it also functions amazingly in day to day life. The versatility and range of HH's pieces have gained her notice with features in publications like Numero, Vogue, Interview Magazine, Garage, and Purple Fashion. She has worked with many fashion heavy hittters such as Steven Meisel, Masha Orlov, Terry Richardson, Irena Lazarneanu, and Patti Wilson. 

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Hailey Clauson (above left) wears The Outrider, Men's styles available HERE.